Boyfriend makes Super Bowl plans with his high‑school friends without considering his girlfriend’s schedule, then reacts angrily when she suggests watching the game with a platonic male friend at a bar

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  • Man and woman sit on a couch in a modern living room arguing animatedly, both gesturing with their hands as they face each other, capturing a heated discussion or relationship conflict at home.
  • AITA for trying to make Super Bowl plans with a guy friend?

    Hello all. My BF (24M) and I (24F) have been together since HS (7 yrs) and live together.
  • We got into a huge fight earlier about this. I was really sure of myself at the time but I'm starting to doubt it.
  • I'm hoping that outside opinions will help us move forward. I'm a bartender and usually have Sundays off.
  • Last week I told BF that I may work Super Bowl Sunday because the bartender really wanted out of his shift and was willing to pay.
  • Fast forward two days later, he found someone else to take it for free. I did tell BF about this, though now he says he doesn't remember it.
  • Yesterday I realized that he hadn't mentioned plans. I asked him and he told me that his HS friends were getting together.
  • Man and woman sit on a couch in a modern living room having a tense conversation, with the woman gesturing while holding a phone and the man looking down, suggesting a serious discussion at home.
  • I have never liked the guys in this group, not even before I dated BF. They're immature and gross.
  • One of them is a certified creep, one has like 2 DUIs. Another one disliked me before BF and I ever started dating, and I found out years ago that he spent a while trying to convince BF not to date me (even after we were).
  • Most of them also don't have girlfriends (go figure). Suffice to say that's not somewhere I'd be comfortable.
  • I was peeved that he didn't mention it sooner but decided to find my own plans.
  • Unfortunately, that was hard. Everyone is either out of town or unavailable. I got pretty sad and tried to hide it from BF but he kept asking what was wrong.
  • I told him it bothered me that he made plans without thinking of me. He got upset.
  • He said he didn't remember me telling him I'd be off and he wouldn't be manipulated into thinking my lack of plans was his problem.
  • He said if I wanted something to do, I could come with him because he wants to watch it with his friends.
  • I thought I'd just watch it alone at our place. Then I thought about my friend, Thomas, who happens to be a huge fan of one of the teams.
  • We worked together for like 4 years and still keep in touch. He's one of the best guy friends I've ever had.
  • Every time he has met BF, he's gone out of his way to be respectful towards him.
  • They've talked sports and video games. I actually thought they were sort of buddies. I reached out to Thomas as a long shot, and lo and behold, he planned to watch it alone at a local sports bar.
  • I said hey, can I come? We made the plans and I told BF about them.
  • His response- "if you do that, your shit will be on the curb when you get back".
  • I was shocked and we fought hard. He admitted that he trusted me and didn't deny that he trusted Thomas too.
  • He just said it was a bad look for his girlfriend to be having a "one-on- one" with another guy.
  • I argued that it wouldn't be weird at all as I'm certain the bar will be packed.
  • I called him controlling but he stood firm, and then told me he couldn't even stand to look at me after knowing I think this is okay.
  • In the end, I cancelled on Thomas. I still don't know if I feel it was justified, though
  • Was I really so out of line for thinking I could hangout with him by myself?
  • AITA?

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